Once upon a time (this is a true story, but one I have waited to tell until much time elapsed to protect the privacy of those involved) I was in conversation with someone who I felt was giving me a bit of an attitude that I was sure I did not deserve. I made a choice while talking with them to return the attitude. Yes, you read that right, I weighed the option and chose to give it back rather than extend grace.
Right away I knew I was wrong. And that I needed to make the relationship right. But I wasn’t ready. I needed some time to work through my feelings before I could honestly ask for forgiveness.
When I felt ready to confess my sin, repent and ask forgiveness from the person I did so and they forgave me.
Then I waited . . . for them to in turn ask my forgiveness for their attitude.
They never did.
I fell back on God, asking why and complaining that I did the right thing – why didn’t they?
I was met with the answer that this was about me – not them.
Wait . . . what was that God? Usually You tell me, “this isn’t about you.” Why are You changing the script now?
But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners Romans 5:8 NLT